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Posted on June 19 at 3:40 p.m. (Suggest removal)
travlr423, I'm sorry you had to witness the abuse you referenced. However, I do have an issue with one of your statements: "i just never allowed my self to become a victim without a choice." To think that domestic violence victims "allow" themselves to be victims is to insinuate that they had some kind of control when they were being victimized. Whether it was physical or mental, a perpatrator has some kind of control that leaves his/her victim feeling powerless. That is not to say that a victim of domestic violence cannot come out from under this control, but they do not or, at least, feel they do not have a choice. That power to control is the source of all domestic violence incidents and what motivates perpetrators.
Posted on June 19 at 11:45 a.m. (Suggest removal)
I am not a parent. So, the only experience I can give as an example is the way my parents treated me as a teenager. They were very respectful of me and my sibling, but when it came time to discipline, they did not hold back. If they knew or even thought I was doing something inappropriate, they addressed it with me. However, I can honestly say that drugs were never an issue. If my parents felt like they were, I would have expected them to want me to take a drug test.
This is where I have a problem. If you suspect your child of using or if they have attempted to hide things from you in the past, by all means, test them. Yet, if there have been no signs and if you really trust your children, why test them?
By the way, if anyone is interested in learning more about the signs of drug use/abuse I would recommend the following site:
Posted on June 19 at 11:18 a.m. (Suggest removal)
I'm glad to hear that Ms. Reece. You sound like someone who would be very beneficial to this task force.
travlr423, I have heard words similar to yours spoken by some of my own family members. It's nice to think that you would be able to handle a situation like domestic violence as you mentioned above. However, unless you have been in a situation like that of Ms. Reece and so many other men and women and their families, then you really don't know what your response will be. I don't know what my response would be. I pray every day that nothing happens to my wife and hope that I will be able to protect her from any type of hurt that comes along. Yet, at the end of the day, all I really can do is, again, pray.
Posted on June 18 at 4:55 p.m. (Suggest removal)
ForACause, you are right. You are straying from the topic at hand.
Just for entertainment's sake, do you also not want your children taught by liars, gluttons, people who do not obey their parents, or something else (according to some) considered a sin? As long as they are not allowing it to affect their ability to teach the required material, is it actually affecting the quality of the education they are receiving? Just because something someone does isn't (accoding to some) moral, does it make them bad teachers?
Posted on June 18 at 4:25 p.m. (Suggest removal)
travlr423, I would hope someone would intervene if someone was "throwing an object, kicking a door or anything of the same nature where one might feel their personal safety is being jeopardised." If an adult feels that violence or the threat of violence is the way they need to deal with anger or "a simple argument", as you put it, then they do need help. An adult should be able to have an argument/disagreement without coming to blows with another person, animal, car, or a wall, whatever the case may be.
AZSneed, I understand where you are coming from. Saying that domestic violence can be stopped is like saying birthing pains can be stopped. Both have been here since the early days of creation and both will continue to be here no matter what we, as humans, attempt to do. Great strides have been made in creating pain killers that can mask or reduce the pains of child birth, but they are still there. Great strides have also been made in reducing domestic violence, but it will continue to remain a part of life as long as this world is in existence. Now, does that mean we discontinue our efforts to reduce it? Absolutely not! Again, I wish nothing but success for this task force.
Posted on June 18 at 11:34 a.m. (Suggest removal)
The way Alabama's tenure system has been explained to me is that if you have been an employee for less than three years, you can, basically, be fired without being given a reason. Is this true?
Posted on June 18 at 11:12 a.m. (Suggest removal)
KatherineReece, I agree. Unless there is some type of physical evidence regarding a domestic violence incident (not necessarily bodily injuries), I would think that there would be little that law enforcement could do.
I would like to hear from some of our present or former law enforcement officers regarding this. Have any of you had experience regarding this type of situation?
Posted on June 18 at 9:19 a.m. (Suggest removal)
travlr423, you are right in that "domestic violence is a serious issue" and that domestic violence is not always a situation where "physical injury or assaulting another by physical force" takes place. Many people do not understand what actions and inactions, so to speak, domestic violence actually includes. For those who are curious, a relatively thorough definition and additional information can be found at: www.domesticviolence.org
By the way, I hope this task force is extremely successful and that Chilton County becomes the county to look to when it comes to the prevention of and education about domestic violence.
Posted on June 5 at 4:08 p.m. (Suggest removal)
I know that came out of left field, but I just found out about the site today and had to share the stupidity with someone that I knew would appreciate it.
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Posted on July 2 at 9:24 a.m. (Suggest removal)
Tyler is a true servant of Christ and it is true that he has been serving in the mission field for some time in many different capacities. I call it a privilege to have been able to see him grow spiritually and believe he has truly found his calling. I know he and his family and the many other missionaries attempting to follow the command of the Great Commission would really appreciate all prayers lifted up on their behalf.
On To the ends of the Earth